8 Things People Hate About Their Colleagues (Are You Guilty?)

8 Things People Hate About Their Colleagues (Are You Guilty?)

Bernard Marr

It’s true that we can’t choose our families, but in most cases, we also don’t get to choose our work colleagues — and many of us spend more time with the people at work than we do with our blood kin!

According to a UK study, one in five office employees say they hate one or more of their coworkers. A third of people in the study said they dislike their colleagues so much that they would never even consider socializing with them outside of work.

Bosses and senior management emerged as the most hated group overall, but no one was immune. The study found that media was the most vicious field to work in, followed by accounting, IT, and sales. Nursing came in as the nicest field.

No matter what your job, this study suggests that some people, somewhere in your office may really dislike each other… And these could be some of the reasons why.

  1. Disregard for shared spaces.
    Ever office has an office slob. They may be able to find what they need in that landfill they call a desk, but it may offend or inconvenience their colleagues — especially if they can’t find what they need when they need it. If someone’s mess goes beyond papers and files to include food wrappers and dirty dishes, closest neighbors may not appreciate the smell or potential for vermin. And if their mess extends to shared spaces like the kitchen or breakroom, well, now then they are just being inconsiderate.
  2. Lack of email etiquette
    Please tell me people at your work are not sending funny cat videos and spammy chain emails to their office mates… Even if someone’s email game isn’t that bad, they may still be annoying people if they habitually ‘reply all’ on emails when everyone does not need the reply, use all caps or no punctuation at all, or habitually send novels when a single sentence or two would suffice.
  3. Know-it-all
    Yes, clearly there are some people who are simply the smartest person in any boardroom, but no one else wants to be reminded of that. In fact, some have been so busy being right that they failed to notice that they have completely alienated their entire team, and that no one wants to implement their ideas just to spite them. Rather than having the answer for everything, why not let someone else have a go?
  4. TMI
    Sharing too much information (TMI) is a tricky line to walk. Many coworkers share personal information about their kids, their hobbies, or their pets – which is great and adds to things. But some may be crossing the line when they discuss their embarrassing medical problems, share photos of their weekend drunken debauchery, or kiss and tell. Remember, this doesn’t include just the things people tell their colleagues directly, but also the things they are unfortunate enough to have to overhear when they take private phone calls at their desk.
  5. Laziness
    Nothing will drop someone off people’s favorites list faster than not pulling their weight on the team. If there is someone who is constantly the one not finishing projects, taking long lunches, napping at your desk, or doing just the bare minimum to get by, they are the lazy guy. And those who have to pick up the slack for them won’t ever be their biggest fans. Similarly but slightly different, if someone is always late — to work, to meetings, to whatever — people get tired of that, too.
  6. Complaining
    If someone is constantly moaning about the work load, the hours, the boss, the temperature of the office or the sorry state of the coffee, you can bet that their coworkers are tired of listening to it. Everyone works hard, no one wants to stay late, and yes, the coffee sucks — but no one wants to hear about it all day every day.
  7. Gossip
    Many offices run on gossip as much as they do coffee or tea, but there’s also always someone who takes it too far.  If someone is more concerned with their coworkers’ personal lives or interpersonal communications than they are with their own life and work, chances are, somebody isn’t happy about it. Best to remember to mind your own business and let everyone else get on with theirs.
  8. Too competitive
    Competition can be healthy. Seeing who’s first on the sales leaderboard or who has completed the most projects this month can be motivating and fun. But when there is someone who acts as though work is a war and there can be only one victor, they’re probably taking things too seriously and almost certainly making enemies.

I believe that no-one should ever reach a state of ‘hating’ anyone at their work place and if people simply watched out for these little things our work places would be much better and happier places, for everyone!

What other most-hated office behaviors have I overlooked?  I’d love to have your contributions in the comments below.

Thank you for reading my post. Here at LinkedIn and at Forbes I regularly write about management, technology and Big Data.

Experts: Uphill fight against age related job discrimination

Age-related discrimination in the workplace still exists 50 years after the enactment of legislation designed to prevent it, aging experts and advocates told the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission on Wednesday, June 14, 2017.

Laurie McCann, senior attorney for the AARP Foundation Litigation, said the law “should not be treated as a second-class civil rights statute providing older workers far less protection than other civil rights laws.”

McCann urged the EEOC to be more aggressive in pursuing age discrimination cases.

June 14, 2017’s  meeting was the first in a series aimed at assessing the state of age discrimination 50 years after it became illegal. During the meeting, the commissioners listened to experts and asked questions about possible solutions but there was no set plan for how to address the concerns raised.

Victoria Lipnic, acting EEOC chair, said the commission would work to “ensure opportunities are based on ability, not age.”

The agency receives about 20,000 age discrimination complaints each year, with women more likely to file them than men, she said.

“No one should be denied a job or should lose a job based on assumptions or stereotypes,” Lipnic said.

McCann said discrimination begins as early as the job search. She cited job listings that include maximum years of experience and others that require applicants to be “digital natives,” meaning the applicants grew up using technology.

Research conducted by Patrick Button, assistant professor at Tulane University, examined more than 40,000 applications or resumes sent for 13,000 job postings across the country. The positions were mostly entry-level, a type of job both young workers and older workers often try to get. On average, the resumes were identical but senior applicants, those between 64 and 66 years old, got fewer call backs. The research also found that for older women, the discrimination is more severe and it starts much earlier compared to older men.

“It seems pretty clear that our challenge as a society is to change the way in which individuals who hire, promote or fire workers think about the category of ‘older workers’ or think about the category of ‘older female workers,”’ said Commissioner Chai R. Feldblum.

Commissioner Jenny R. Yang said she was concerned about the possibility of older workers being excluded from the tech industry, which is growing rapidly. Yang cited a study that estimated that by 2020 there will be 1.4 million new tech jobs but only 400,000 skilled workers. She said older workers need technology skills to be able to be a part of that growing economy.

 

Just Bike it! You’ll Like It! Bike to Work and School Week: May 29-June 4, 2017

Just Bike it! You’ll Like It! Bike to Work and School Week: May 29-June 4, 2017

Smither’s resident and president of Bike to Work BC Society, Taylor Bachrach has been cycling to work for six years. “There is nothing that beats how great you feel riding your bike to work and home,” he says. “It is amazing how the stresses of the day just melt away. And you take time to notice the friendly people around you.”

Bike to Work & School Week is May 29-June 4, 2017 throughout BC.

Bachrach urges people to get on their bikes and give it a try, even if they have never done it before: “We hope they discover how enjoyable biking to get to places can be.” Choosing to bike instead of drive just one day makes a difference in our health and air quality; and you don’t need any special equipment other than a bike and helmet. There is lots of support including ICBC safety tips, and fun celebration stations.”

Teachers, parents, students, employers, and employees are encouraged to register their classes, schools, and workplaces through www.biketowork.ca.

“It is easy and fun,” Bachrach says. “You can join or start a team, or participate as a solo rider. If you register at www.biketowork.ca, and report your trips, you will qualify for great prizes including a grand prize of an Exodus Travels dream cycling adventure for two along Croatia’s Dalmatian Coast.* For longer distances, you can always bus and bike part way. Make sure you log the kilometers you biked, to qualify for prizes and see how many calories you burned, and  kilograms of greenhouse gases you saved.”

The winner of last’s year’s Exodus grand prize, Joel Carter and his family aim to operate one vehicle in their household. Biking to work allows them to achieve this.  “I also find it difficult to find time to exercise with a busy schedule. Biking to work serves two purposes: I get some exercise; and it is a great form of transportation to and from work.”

“Cycling brings out the child in many of us and a sense of wonder – as does travel,” says Robin Brooks, marketing & PR manager for Exodus Travels, “A bike lets you travel at your own pace, has minimal environmental impact and best of all presents you with a rewarding adrenaline adventure that once finished provides an unparalleled sense of achievement,” says Brooks.

Organizers say, “You don’t need fancy clothes or an expensive bike to participate in Bike to Work & School Week, but it is important to be visible and wear a helmet. Check www.biketowork.ca for ICBC’s safety tips and review the Bike Sense manual at www.bikesense.org to refresh your memory about the rules of the road and how to share the road safely with vehicles.”  More than 50 communities and regions participate in the event across BC. To join them, register at www.biketowork.ca.

Bike to Work BC is a not for profit society that provides resources and support to help local communities organize and hold bike to work and school events province-wide.

**all participating communities except Greater Victoria quality for the Exodus Travels grand prize

SOURCE Bike to Work BC Society

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10 common phrases to avoid in speeches

 

There are a few phrases that always hit my ear badly when I hear speakers use them in response to an audience member’s question.

They’re all variations on the same theme; you can probably come up with several similar ones of your own. Each can make the person who utters them come across as annoyed, if not downright peevish.

The phrases are:

• “As I mentioned earlier”
• “As I already said in my email”
• “As I said before”
• “As I’ve already mentioned”
• “Like I previously stated”
• “As I wrote in the memo you received”
• “Like I said”
• “As I stated earlier”
• “Like we discussed”
• “As we covered at the beginning”

In my experience, most speakers who utter these types of lines don’t do so because they’re annoyed. I’d guess many of them aren’t even aware that they said these lines at all. Nonetheless, they can come across as an accusation to the audience—I already spoke about this! Why weren’t you listening to me?

Even though it can feel annoying to receive an audience question about material you already covered, keep in mind that: The person who asked the question might have entered the room late due to an unexpected doctor’s appointment; their mind may have drifted because the information you were sharing frightened them; their attention span waned simply because they’re human. Heck, it may even be a sign that you’re a sleep-inducing speaker!

The bottom line is that if you’re asked to restate something that you said earlier, just say it a second time.

Excerpted article written by Brad Phillips, PR Daily

Brad Phillips is author of The Media Training Bible: 101 Things You Absolutely, Positively Need to Know Before Your Next Interview. He is also the president of Phillips Media Relations, a media and presentation training firm, and blogs at Mr. Media Training, where a version of this story first appeared.

ILScorp has launched a new online course: “Secrets for Exceptional Speaking”  to meet this growing need among professionals in all industries. This online video course teaches an innovative approach to public speaking, presentations, and communication skills, using the trade-marked Hendrie Method.

7 Key Habits of Super Networkers

The ability to network successfully can be one of the greatest assets in business. It allows some people to find incredible opportunities, while others just watch from the sidelines.

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Effective networking isn’t a result of luck — it requires hard work and persistence. What does it take to be a super networker? Here are seven of the most important habits to develop:

1. Ask insightful questions.
Before attending networking events, get the names of the people who are expected to attend and search social media sites like LinkedIn to figure out which topics they’re probably most interested in. For people who are already in your network, don’t assume you know everything they’re up to. Find out what they’re currently working on — or perhaps struggling with. This attention to detail can go a long way at your next one-on-one lunch or dinner meeting.

2. Add value.
One of the most powerful networking practices is to provide immediate value to a new connection. This means the moment you identify a way to help someone, take action. If, for instance, you know someone in your network who can help a new connection with a problem, drop what you’re doing and introduce the two individuals.

3. Learn their ‘story.’
Ask successful entrepreneurs to tell you how they got where they are. Most people think of this as an exercise in rapport building, but hearing these stories can tell you a lot about a person’s approach to business. The more you understand your networking partner’s mentality, the better you can add and extract value from your relationship.

For example, some entrepreneurs pride themselves on working 16-hour days and doing whatever it takes, while others focus on being strategic and waiting for the right opportunities to open up. These are clues that can not only allow you to see what people value, but also what working with them might be like.

4. Share a memorable fact.
When someone asks, “What do you do?” don’t give a canned elevator speech about your company and career. Mention something personal that defines who you really are. Maybe you have a passion for playing an instrument or an obsession with collecting antiques. These are also “things you do,” so make it a point to share them. Such personal details can help lighten the mood and get people talking.

5. Keep a list.
What’s your routine after attending a networking event or meal? If your answer is, “I go home,” you’re probably going to miss out on opportunities. Write down important topics that came up at the event. This habit can help prevent opportunities from falling through the cracks and give you something to reference in conversation the next time you meet. You can also develop a reputation as someone who’s on top of things.

6. Make small promises and keep them.
No matter how small a promise you make — such as sending an email or returning a phone call — delivering on that promise reflects on your character. By following through on your word, you start building a reputation for trustworthiness, which is exactly how every great networker wants to be perceived.

7. Reward your ‘power’ contacts.
Keep a list of your top five to 10 networking partners and do something each week to add value to one person’s life or business. You might send them a book or set up a lunch to introduce them to one of your other contacts. This habit can help you be proactive about staying in touch with your most powerful contacts. Just as with fitness or investing, the most successful people are the ones who choose to be consistent in their actions.

Excerpted article written by Lewis Howes, Entrepreneur

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